Which Wolf Do You Feed? Love or Fear?


There is a parable that’s been on my mind for some time. The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee Indians, but may have come from another source.


“A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, ‘The one you feed.”

This story could be seen with the two wolves representing fear versus love.

Perhaps, without consciously realizing it, you spend far too much of your time ruminating on old hurts, boundaries crossed, and unkindnesses you’ve experienced.

How does this make you feel?

Does it bring your energy down?

If you’re like many people, it leaves you feeling weak and less than you hope to be in the world.

You might project this inner guilt, anger and resentment onto other people, and hurt them in the process.


You could choose to feed the other wolf, the one who loves, and is brave and kind.

You can choose which reality you want to experience by, consciously and with full awareness, turning your focus onto love.

Allow yourself to think about what you are grateful for with them or in other areas of your life.

Love and gratitude go hand in hand. You cannot have one without the other.

Think about what is working in your life.

Now, you are feeding your energy to the loving wolf, and this is what you will experience in your life. This is what you will see.

Like Gary Zucav says: “Where your attention goes, you go.”

If you’re like me, you may want to become aware of which wolf you are feeding most frequently in your life, in your mind and in your heart.

Is it love or is it fear? Is it appreciation or is it negativity?

You choose…

And remember to live your passion.

Maren Nelson