I want to tell you a little about energy cords. These truly are the ties that bind. I love to share stories and thought you might like this one:
I was just talking to a client about an experience I had back at the end of 1989. I was at a Christmas party with a friend and had just settled into a comfortable spot that gave me a prime view of the front door and anyone walking through it.
I watched as a few people came in. Then, I saw a woman come in with her husband following. I don’t remember their names, so I’ll call them Steve and Val.
Val walked in normally, but when Steve came in, he stopped and scanned the room with focus and intention. I watched him, curious. I glanced away when he started to look at me, but then, felt his attention really connect with me. I looked straight back at him and smiled.
Steve walked toward me and sat down next to me.
“You knew what I was doing, didn’t you?” he said.
I looked back at him and said, “Yeah. How long have you been doing that?”
“Oh, a long time. I get energy from people.”
Steve was connecting on an energetic level with people, and then, absorbing some of their energy, or life force.
I asked Steve, “Aren’t you taking on the bad stuff too?”
“Oh, no. It helps me.,” he said with conviction.
I was completely skeptical that he wasn’t affected by his attempt to cord people in this way.
What I mean by cording is that energetic connection we have with some people like family, friends, teachers and sometimes, people we’ve been in intimate relationships with. It’s almost tangible. If you’re sensitive to energy, it’s very tangible. It’s like developing a muscle to become sensitive to it. It gets stronger the more you use it.
Because I work with emotional energy so much, I’m pretty sensitive to it. Frequently, I know when someone tries to cord me and what’s going on with them that they think they need to hook in like this. I can feel it.
Most of the time, people don’t know they’re cording someone. It happens unconsciously. These cords are created when there’s an intense emotional connection or desire for connection. Sometimes, that connection isn’t healthy; it’s draining. The other thing is that no one can cord you if you don’t let them.
Anyway, several months later, Steve’s wife called me and left a message for me to call her back. Later that night when I called, Steve picked up. His wife was gone. I left a message with him, but I had to ask him, “Do you still do that thing when you hook into people and take some of their energy?”
“Nooooo,” he said emphatically. “I realized I was taking on the bad stuff too.”
I smiled to myself. “I’m glad you stopped,” I said and told him goodnight. Funny thing, his wife never called me back. I truly believe Steve and I were meant to have that conversation.
I talk about these energy cords in my book, “Ride the Emotional Wave,” in more detail and how to clear the ones that are draining. If it’s draining you, it’s draining the other person too. It may be caused by unhealthy, codependent issues that you both have. You mirror each other and hook in. This doesn’t serve either one of you.
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As always, remember and live your passion.
Maren Nelson