What Are Core Beliefs?

I just got off the phone with a new client and realized you might enjoy the topic of part of our conversation. We got to talking about core beliefs and core issues and where they begin.

Many of our core beliefs began when we were children and even at birth i.e.; abandonment issues, scarcity issues, the belief people are going to hurt us, life is a struggle, etc., etc., based on our different birth scenarios.

As children we were not capable of making rational decisions about certain experiences until our right and left brain have separated enough. This is what specialists call the Age of Reason. This doesn’t happen until about the age of seven or eight years old.

But we make many decisions early on in life that wouldn’t make sense to an adult, but make perfect sense to a child. These decisions based on misperceptions get pushed into the subconscious and run our lives as adults. Often, they become core beliefs that we act out as core issues.

We wonder why the same things keep happening to us, not realizing we are attracting in difficult situations based on these unconscious beliefs.

For instance, let’s say you had a toy that was taken away from you when you were a toddler. You may have misperceived and misunderstood what happened. The belief begins, “If I have something I love, it will be taken away.” (Believe it or not, this is a core belief I’ve seen arise for a lot of people.)

Later in life, this could play out in many different ways such as the inability to maintain loving relationships.

Breathwork is one of the few techniques that can access the unconscious mind to get to the memories where core beliefs began.Once you become aware of the core belief, you can work to heal it.

I would suggest that you go back into the old memory, but instead of seeing and experiencing the loss of the toy as a child, you see it replaced with something better. Let yourself feel deeply the simple joy of this. As you do, it will integrate into your subconscious mind so that you can attract lasting, loving relationships now.

As you allow yourself to correct these archaic beliefs and issues, you will see your life change for the better. And as always, I encourage you to remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson

 

Commitment to Healing

Become addicted to constant and never-ending self-improvement.” by Anthony D’Angelo

I ran across this quote and completely agreed with it. When you choose to grow along a spiritual path and with your emotional clearing, it really does become addicting. It becomes a way of life. You’re continually looking for your next level of growth.

Normally, as you move through life and its challenges, you experience drastic ups and downs. Sometimes things seem to plateau out for a while and you experience a moment of calm. Then the ups and downs hit you again.

As you began to work on yourself, the lows will eventually be higher than the highs used to be. The highs will last longer and come more often and the lows won’t last as long or come as often.

As you keep going, you gradually sense more security in life. You come to trust the process of life, in God and in yourself. We can truly become masters in our lives.

I encourage you on your path of self-improvement, and I encourage you to always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com

Commitment & My Book

I’ve been writing this blog now for about two and a half years. It seems that many of you have enjoyed what I have written concerning emotional mastery and what it can do for your lives and your relationships.

There have been many of you who have asked if I have a book on this material. I’m glad to say that I’m just now finishing up the last of the editing of my first book. It’s been a long and challenging process to complete it.

There have been many times I’ve had to remind myself of a statement on commitment by William H. Murray. Murray wrote this while on a Scottish Himalayan expedition:

“Until one is committed there is hesitancy,
The chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.
Concerning all acts of initiative and creation
There is one elementary truth,
The ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:
That the moment one definitely commits oneself,
Then Providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that
Would otherwise never have occurred.
A whole stream of events issue from the decision
Raising in one’s favor all manner of incidence, meetings
And material assistance which no man could
Have dreamt would have come his way.
I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:
‘Whatever you can do, or dream you can,
Begin it!
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it!’
Begin it now!”

I am excited and deeply honored to be able to share this information with all of you. I will keep you posted concerning its release which will be soon.

If you are interested in supporting me in this endeavor, you will locate a “Donate” button on any page of my website which will take you to Paypal. Any contributions would be greatly appreciated.

Sharing emotional release work with you and writing this book has been my passion. As always, I encourage you to remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com

We’re Never Healed Alone #2

maren nelsonI sat near my client, encouraging her to feel the sadness she had carried since early childhood. As she did, I could feel that heavy energy lift off her chest and her heart open. Her tears of grief turned to tears of joy as she felt the love of God course through her.

I didn’t even try to hold back my own tears as I was, once again, filled with awe for the profound healing and love that we were both experiencing in this moment. I knew I was being twice blessed. The first blessing had been my own healing, and the second was this holy instant.

A client will come in for a session and may believe they are the only one who will receive a healing. Both the client and therapist may believe that the therapist is somehow the dominant party in their relationship.

Over the years, I have come to learn that a good therapist creates a space for healing to occur and maintains it during a session through non-judgment, acceptance and love. That is their job.

The client may be mirroring back to the therapist a lesson she has already learned. The present moment is affording her the opportunity to deepen and strengthen an insight she may have previously received converting that insight to knowledge.

I share with you this truth that in every situation where there is a client and therapist, both parties receive a healing during their work together. We are truly never healed alone.

And, as always, remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com

We’re Never Healed Alone

One of the first things I learned when I began my training in Breathwork was that we are never healed alone. Whenever we experience a shift in perception or consciousness that shifts our lives, the people who are closest to us will be affected also. This includes our families and close friends.

Even if you are thousands of miles away and experience some kind of personal healing, your loved ones will feel the effects. Time and space is an illusion. They may not be consciously aware of what has happened, but at some level they will know. I’ve had this happen hundreds of times for myself and my clients.

Many times I’ve been in a session with a client and I would have them visualize that person and tell them what they needed to say as though that person was right there. My client might experience a deep, profound love or forgiveness for that person. In that very moment, that person they were sending the psychic message to would call my client on phone, leaving a message that they were thinking of them and felt a strong urge to call.

There have been times when I’ve wanted to tell someone close to me something that had shifted in my life but stopped from telling them because I knew they might not be able to hear it at that point in their life. I knew that they could receive the message at an unconscious level. I would do the same thing with visualization that I’ve done with clients and send my conscious thought through what I call “The Psychic Hotline”.

I hope this message encourages others, and always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com

Would You Rather Be Right Or Happy?

I became acquainted with this question in 1988 the first time I read A Course In Miracles and have heard it many times since…”Would you rather be right or happy?” Honestly, most people would rather be right.

The ego will quite literally fight to the death to be right. Many people sacrifice their happiness in order to be right. We see this played out within personal relationships, families, business relations, countries and religions through conflict and war.

Many years ago, I had a client with whom I did my Breathwork sessions and he would do computer work for me in exchange. He would tell me how loving and caring he was with his girlfriend and always tried to support her in what she wanted in her life.

However, there were several times while I was in their home I could hear them arguing. It sounded nit-picking and hurtful to me. One of them would say something nasty and the other one would come back with an even worse retort. Round and round they would go, each of them convinced they were right and both of them obviously unhappy. It was a struggle for control and power over the other.

The relationship eventually ended, and I watched as I saw this fellow get into relationship after relationship, each one ending exactly the same way. I tried to talk to him about the pattern he had running, but he didn’t want to look at and admit his part in it. He truly believed he was the victim in each case and that he was right. Eventually, he stopped working with me, and I was never sure if he was able to heal this aspect of his ego.

At those times you feel that urge to dig in your heals over something and the anger begin to rise because you think you need to be right, take a moment to ask yourself this question. By doing so, you could turn any conflict around any save yourself years of unhappiness by being a teacher for peace. And always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com

Q & A #2: A Gift of Love…

To continue on with our subject, I want to share with you the story I shared with my friend and client, Cindra many years ago…

Somewhere, I heard the story of a business man and a homeless man. Every day the business man went to work and at the end of the workday, he would see this homeless man standing on the street near his office. Every day the business man would stop and give the homeless man a dollar. The homeless man was always exceedingly grateful.

One day the homeless man stopped the business man and told him how much his kindness had meant to him. He explained he had once had his own business and a family. He had not come to his circumstance through alcohol or mental problems. However, by a cruel stream of events in his life, he had lost everything.

With tears in his eyes, the homeless man said there were many days he had felt there was no reason to go on with life. This one act of kindness the business man showed him every day had kept him going.

The business man took the other man to get something to eat and while sitting with him recognized this man was honest and good. The business man offered him a job. It wouldn’t pay much in the beginning, but there was opportunity for advancement. The homeless man gratefully accepted.

What neither of these men consciously knew was that before incarnating in this lifetime, the homeless man had made an agreement with the business man that he would take on the role as the homeless person so that the business man would have the opportunity to choose to experience giving compassion to another human being. It was a lesson his soul wanted to learn.

I share this story as an example of the statement that giving and receiving are, in truth, one and the same. In giving, we also receive, and in receiving, we also give.

Open your minds to the love that is shared in both giving and receiving and your hearts to doing so without judgment of others or yourself as better or lesser than. And allow yourself to remember your passion during this New Year.

Best, Maren Nelson
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
Life Breath Integrations
310-977-0044

Q & A: A Gift of Love…

maren nelsonWhat a lovely post, Maren. I agree completely and have had similar experiences. I think it is especially important that you bring this up to remind us to always come from that place no matter what. We so often forget and go into reaction when someone lashes out at us and that only makes things worse…and it takes us out of Love. This lesson, one of so many I was introduced to in my work with you, has served me very well. Thanks to my guides, it is one I am still given opportunities to work on! 🙂

This brings to mind another lesson we worked on. Perhaps you could also comment on what constitutes a loving act as well. Something that I have had to learn in my life is that just because what you’re doing looks like a loving act of kindness, that doesn’t always mean it serves the highest good of the other person or yourself. Which, to me, means it is not truly loving.

As I have become more aware of this and more comfortable with my process of questioning whether my action serves the highest good, I have begun to observe around me others engaging in what I would have, in the past, believed was a loving act. Now, however, I am beginning to be able to discern when these seemingly loving acts are really done from a very self-serving place with little regard for the highest good of the receiver of the act. This discernment has served me so well. It has kept me from “taking sides.” It has given me the ability to remain neutral in a way I was never able to in the past. And I believe this helps me to stay in a loving space overall.

I remember in a session with you long ago, you told me the story of a man who chose to come back to this human experience as a homeless person. He had his reasons. Those who allowed him, on this human plane, to degenerate into homelessness were serving his highest good as part of the agreements they had made before coming into this experience.

And while I have forgotten the specifics and details of this story, I’m pretty sure the overall jist is true to what you were expressing to me. That very important concept, has served me well and I have held onto it as a very important lesson.

Not that we shouldn’t offer sincere kindness for those in need, but we should always be aware of our motivation, we should always look for what the person is willing to receive, and we should always ask that we be guided to act in the highest good for all. Thank you, Maren! My life is richer, healthier, and happier as a result of the work we did together.

Dear Cindra,

I remember our conversation years ago. It was when you went through the training program with me which is now my coaching program. Although your recollection of the story is a little vague, I really like your version a lot. It’s as pure as the one I shared with you originally.

Yes, I agree with you with what you have shared here that sometimes we believe we are giving love when what we (or others) are giving is actually self-serving. Perhaps we help someone who is struggling in their life.

We give them a hand up, but in truth, deep within our minds, maybe even at an unconscious level, we see them as beneath us. Perhaps, we see ourselves as above them because we have not made the same choices that brought them to this point. We believe we are better somehow because it appears our lives are “together” and theirs are not.

Perhaps there are those people who have done something in their lives that we believe we would never do and we judge them. We see ourselves as superior. We do not know what has brought them to this place and the balancing act being played out on so many more levels than we can understand. We do not see that our judgments are generated by the fear that we have it in us to be or do what they have. In truth, we are judging ourselves and projecting our guilt onto them. Thanks again, Cindra. I remember the original story and will share that soon.

Best, Maren Nelson
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
Life Breath Integrations
maren@marennelson.com

A Gift of Love Is Never Lost

Something I’ve had the opportunity to learn through my work with clients in Connected Breathing and in my life is that a gift of love is never lost. This lesson hasn’t always been an easy one to fully understand.

The Breathwork I do can take people to a very deep emotional level. Most people have been taught to suppress emotions and when they begin to surface during sessions (or in their lives), some people get really scared. Many people will use anger to cover their fear.

Some of those people are so afraid, they are not willing to take responsibility for their fear, and they lash out. They will either make me or the process wrong and leave. I’ve had to learn not to take this personally no matter how adamant they are about it.

When I first started working with clients and this happened, this was difficult and disappointing for me. My intent was to create a space for healing to occur. In my heart, I was offering my love.

Over time I realized that when a person cannot receive my love because of their fear, the gift is never lost. God and our guides and Teachers will hold my offering until the person is ready to receive it whether it is ten minutes from now, ten years or ten lifetimes. I may never see the client or person I’ve been dealing with again, but somehow, somewhere my gift of love will be accepted.

Allow yourself to remember your passion during this Holiday Season.

Best, Maren Nelson
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
Life Breath Integrations
310-977-0044

Our Parents & God

I wanted to write this post in honor of my parents. My father passed away recently, and my mom made her transition back in March. It’s been an eventful year to say the least.

As children, our mother and father (or primary caretakers) were God and Goddess to us. They were the center of our universe. They were the key influence that taught us about the world through what they said and did or didn’t say or do.

Our parents indoctrinated us into their world. Their world was ours at least when we were young. We took on many of their beliefs and behaviors. Some of these were passed on consciously and some, unconsciously.

As we grew, we may have been taught or came to believe in a conditional or punishing God. Where did these beliefs come from? Were we taught this through the religion or the environment we grew up in?

If our parents loved us conditionally or punished us, we may have projected our beliefs about them onto our ideas and beliefs about God. Most people are not even aware they have done so.

I want to encourage you to examine your beliefs about God or a higher power if you have any at all. Perhaps you have chosen to believe there is no God. You may believe that if there is one, He/She is as judgmental and punishing as what you may have experienced from your parents while growing up. Perhaps you have turned your back on the God that you were raised to believe in.

You can choose to change your mind about what characteristics God has. You can choose a loving god, one that does not judge or punish. I believe that the term Love and God are synonymous. To me, Love is God. You can choose to make Him/Her your best friend. And always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
Life Breath Integrations
310-977-0044
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com