Commitment #2

maren nelsonMy friend, Cindra, responded to my post last month sincerely searching for an answer that I feel was well worth responding to. I think many of you will connect to it. Below it you’ll find my response.

Comment from Cindra: “My work with you was a perfect example of exactly what you just described.  I didn’t have $2000 and had no idea where I was going to get it…but I had to work with you and I knew I had to do more than just have a few sessions…I needed the fullest experience you had to offer.  Within days of that decision, a check for exactly $2000 appeared in my mailbox – completely unsolicited, unrequested by me.  Granted, it was from a credit card company and it took me two years to pay it back…but there it was, exactly on time for me to fully commit to working with you.  If I’m not mistaken, that was also the time when you needed to buy a computer and my $2000 came at the right timing to help make that possible, so that my commitment and manifestation also supported your own.  Pretty darn cool!

I wish I could say that I have duplicated that process many times since then, but I haven’t.  It is something that happens for me, but happens rarely.  However, every time it does happen, it happens effortlessly.

Therefore, more and more I am inclined to believe that having this kind of manifestation occur has less to do with my ability to commit or my ability to manifest, than it has to do with my need or desire being in alignment with some greater purpose or plan that I am not aware of.  This possibility has been at the forefront of my consciousness recently and seems to be the key that I have been asking for.

Outer physical appearances in my life suggest that I am not manifesting my dreams, which the current spirituality movement would have one believe is a clear indication that I am somehow blocking my good.  I have participated in classes, workshops, and listened to talks at my spiritual center, learning and absorbing the “principles.”  I have taken classes and workshops with experts who have proven through their own lives that their methods of manifestation work.  And yet, my life remains where it is and I am not moving into the life I have in my mind.  I am certainly not abundantly prosperous and therefore not able to do many of the things I’d like to do.

So I have been questioning why this is and whether or not this interpretation of my reality is the truth.  If it is the truth, then I need to clear the block in any way possible.  If it is not the truth then I need to know what the truth of my life and how it evolves is.

As a result, I have pulled back from participating in spiritual workshops, training, programs, and healing sessions.  I have felt compelled to step away from spiritual experts, guides, and gurus in order to seek the purest personal experience of God and my own higher guidance.  After all, over and over again in my life I have been shown that adopting someone else’s method (no matter how perfectly I apply it) will never result in the same outcome for me as it did for them…no matter what any expert may say to the contrary.

The very surprising result of my commitment to simply trust that all the answers are within me already has been that I have been consistently receiving messages that deliberately creating and manifesting what I “want” my life to be and what I envision as the life that I want is not my path.

This flies in the face of current spiritual trends that would have one believe that proven spiritual methods will always work if followed diligently.  It also flies in the face of current spiritual declarations that if one is not financially prosperous it is because there is some kind of malfunction of one’s belief and that one has separated themself from God.

So it is a little uncomfortable to consider embracing a belief that God has a plan for me that I cannot see, a plan that suggests that material prosperity is meaningless and unimportant to this plan.  In such a plan it is critical that I embrace, instead, the realization that I am always taken care of and that the things I “want” in addition are somehow unimportant at this point in my evolution…and that when I want something that is actually in alignment with this greater “Plan” it will indeed manifest effortlessly and in the perfect time once I have made a commitment to it.”

From Maren: “Thank you for the comment here. I know what a struggle it’s been for you around working to create and manifest your dreams. I know how hard you’ve worked at it. Although I talk about the Law of Attraction in my upcoming book, I also talk about Beyond the Law of Attraction. All I can say is that I think there are many things we don’t have control over and are beyond what we can understand based on our limited perceptions. I don’t know that anyone really knows how this whole thing works. I think many people think they know, but is that really just their attempt to categorize everything so they can feel safe? It seems all we can do is to work to express the love that we are as best we can. It seems to me we do this because it brings us joy so that we can share that joy others.”

From Cindra: “Hearing my thoughts reframed through a separate perception is so helpful and clarifying.  I’m happy to hear that you’ve addressed this conundrum in your book, too.”

To All of You: As we move through this holiday season, I encourage you all to remember your passion.

Blessings, Maren Nelson


maren nelson”To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.” ~Sren Aaby Kierkegaard

It was the summer I turned 25 years old and although I looked like a million bucks from my intense workout schedule, I felt like I was emotionally dying inside.

One day, I ran into my cousin, Cheryl, at the gym, and we stopped to talk. She asked me how I was doing and I told her that I was going through my second divorce. “Can you see a pattern in your relationships…that you keep attracting in abusive men?” I had been thinking about that very thing a lot and answered, “Yes.”

Cheryl told me about LifeSpring, a personal development program she was involved in and encouraged me to go. She lent me the $50 for the down-payment for the Basic that would start in three days. I had no idea how I was going to come up with the rest of the money, but said I’d see what I could do.

When I asked for the time off work, my boss said, “Where are you going to come up with the money?” I told him I didn’t know, but I knew I had to be there. When he saw my commitment, he lent me the remaining $350 on the spot. It was worth it. During the course of the Basic, I felt my heart began to crack open.

A few days later, everyone who went through the Basic was supposed to go in for an interview to talk to someone about doing the Advanced Program. I knew there was no way I could come up with $800 and convinced the fellow who interviewed me that I couldn’t do it.

As I was walking out, a woman who worked for LifeSpring asked me, “Are you going to do the Advanced?” I told her ‘no’ and briefly explained why not. She understood. Then, as I turned to leave, she stopped me and asked, “How long are you going to let money run your life?”

I stood there stammering. I didn’t know what to say. She had hit the nail on the head. I went back and wrote a check for the $50 deposit not knowing how I would come up with the rest.

As I was walking out the door, a fellow I had done a process with during the Basic asked me, “Are you going to do it?” I told him I was. Surprised, he said, “You don’t have the money.” “I know, but I have to be there.” He saw the commitment and determination in my eyes and turned around and wrote out a check for $750 which I eventually paid back.

This experience taught me a valuable lesson: that when we truly commit to something (especially when it’s for the higher good), we create a space for miracles to occur. I have seen this to be true over and over again in my life and in the lives of others especially when it comes to personal growth.

As always, I encourage you to remember your passion.

Blessings, Maren Nelson

Who’s the Prisoner & Who’s the Warden?

I’ll never forget when I first heard this question, “Who’s the prisoner and who’s the warden?” and the epiphany I experienced because of it.

It was 1988, and I was reading A Course in Miracles for the first time. I was working to build my Connected Breathing practice and doing a lot of Breath sessions myself.

Many times during my sessions, profound insights would flood into my mind. The next day, I would read out of the Course the exact information I had just received. The information in the Course was validating my sessions and my sessions were validating the Course.

During one of these breath sessions, it came to me that when we aren’t willing to forgive someone for something, it’s like we set ourselves up as the warden. We use guilt to keep them the prisoner of whatever wrong we think they have done.

We may even say the words, “I forgive you,” but in our hearts, we piously perceive them as unworthy of our forgiveness. We see ourselves as better than them because we have supposedly forgiven them. This is not true forgiveness.

True forgiveness is letting go of the belief that what this person has done is related to who they are. Who and what they are cannot be touched, or changed or affected in any way. The essence of who they are will forever and always be Love…and so are we.

When we choose to hold onto our judgments and anger and won’t forgive, we actually keep ourselves prisoner, locked in our own misperception. You can choose peace and freedom now.

Ask Spirit, God, whatever you choose to call it, to help you to see things differently. I promise you, He (She) will.

And I encourage you to always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson

Are Past Lives Real?

High-priestessMany years ago, a friend asked the question, “Do you really believe in past lives?” I answered with, “Whether or not reincarnation is true, something is going on. I’ve had many experiences when I’ve seen and felt what I can only explain as past lives.

Ultimately, I think there is so much about the universe, God, and infinity that we don’t understand. I believe we are trying to explain them so that we can put them into a category or box. That way, we don’t feel so overwhelmed and intimidated by it all.”

The first past life memory I experienced felt very real to me. It was as though I had stepped into a movie screen. I didn’t feel any physical pain, but I felt all of the emotions as though I was right there.

I was standing on a barren, rocky hill. I was wearing long robes and got the sense this took place around the time of the pharaohs. There were people sitting and lying around with looks of bliss on their faces. I was walking around checking on them. I was giving the power back to the people by teaching them how to access Divine Love for themselves.

The priesthood at that time had become corrupt and sent a soldier to kill me. The priests didn’t want the people to know they had that power themselves and didn’t need to go through the priesthood. I recognized the soldier as someone I had been in relationship with in this life time.

At the time I saw this past life, I had just gotten certified in the Breathwork. I had this crazy feeling if I started my work as a healer, someone would try to kill me. I knew it wasn’t rational, but the feeling was stopping me from moving forward.

Once I recognized where that irrational belief came from, I thought to myself, “Although I was killed in that life, no one is going to try to kill me now.” I was able to begin my practice sharing my love and my passion through my work as a healer.

As always, I encourage you to remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson


What Are Core Beliefs?

I just got off the phone with a new client and realized you might enjoy the topic of part of our conversation. We got to talking about core beliefs and core issues and where they begin.

Many of our core beliefs began when we were children and even at birth i.e.; abandonment issues, scarcity issues, the belief people are going to hurt us, life is a struggle, etc., etc., based on our different birth scenarios.

As children we were not capable of making rational decisions about certain experiences until our right and left brain have separated enough. This is what specialists call the Age of Reason. This doesn’t happen until about the age of seven or eight years old.

But we make many decisions early on in life that wouldn’t make sense to an adult, but make perfect sense to a child. These decisions based on misperceptions get pushed into the subconscious and run our lives as adults. Often, they become core beliefs that we act out as core issues.

We wonder why the same things keep happening to us, not realizing we are attracting in difficult situations based on these unconscious beliefs.

For instance, let’s say you had a toy that was taken away from you when you were a toddler. You may have misperceived and misunderstood what happened. The belief begins, “If I have something I love, it will be taken away.” (Believe it or not, this is a core belief I’ve seen arise for a lot of people.)

Later in life, this could play out in many different ways such as the inability to maintain loving relationships.

Breathwork is one of the few techniques that can access the unconscious mind to get to the memories where core beliefs began.Once you become aware of the core belief, you can work to heal it.

I would suggest that you go back into the old memory, but instead of seeing and experiencing the loss of the toy as a child, you see it replaced with something better. Let yourself feel deeply the simple joy of this. As you do, it will integrate into your subconscious mind so that you can attract lasting, loving relationships now.

As you allow yourself to correct these archaic beliefs and issues, you will see your life change for the better. And as always, I encourage you to remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson


Commitment to Healing

Become addicted to constant and never-ending self-improvement.” by Anthony D’Angelo

I ran across this quote and completely agreed with it. When you choose to grow along a spiritual path and with your emotional clearing, it really does become addicting. It becomes a way of life. You’re continually looking for your next level of growth.

Normally, as you move through life and its challenges, you experience drastic ups and downs. Sometimes things seem to plateau out for a while and you experience a moment of calm. Then the ups and downs hit you again.

As you began to work on yourself, the lows will eventually be higher than the highs used to be. The highs will last longer and come more often and the lows won’t last as long or come as often.

As you keep going, you gradually sense more security in life. You come to trust the process of life, in God and in yourself. We can truly become masters in our lives.

I encourage you on your path of self-improvement, and I encourage you to always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing

Commitment & My Book

I’ve been writing this blog now for about two and a half years. It seems that many of you have enjoyed what I have written concerning emotional mastery and what it can do for your lives and your relationships.

There have been many of you who have asked if I have a book on this material. I’m glad to say that I’m just now finishing up the last of the editing of my first book. It’s been a long and challenging process to complete it.

There have been many times I’ve had to remind myself of a statement on commitment by William H. Murray. Murray wrote this while on a Scottish Himalayan expedition:

“Until one is committed there is hesitancy,
The chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.
Concerning all acts of initiative and creation
There is one elementary truth,
The ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:
That the moment one definitely commits oneself,
Then Providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that
Would otherwise never have occurred.
A whole stream of events issue from the decision
Raising in one’s favor all manner of incidence, meetings
And material assistance which no man could
Have dreamt would have come his way.
I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:
‘Whatever you can do, or dream you can,
Begin it!
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it!’
Begin it now!”

I am excited and deeply honored to be able to share this information with all of you. I will keep you posted concerning its release which will be soon.

If you are interested in supporting me in this endeavor, you will locate a “Donate” button on any page of my website which will take you to Paypal. Any contributions would be greatly appreciated.

Sharing emotional release work with you and writing this book has been my passion. As always, I encourage you to remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing

We’re Never Healed Alone #2

maren nelsonI sat near my client, encouraging her to feel the sadness she had carried since early childhood. As she did, I could feel that heavy energy lift off her chest and her heart open. Her tears of grief turned to tears of joy as she felt the love of God course through her.

I didn’t even try to hold back my own tears as I was, once again, filled with awe for the profound healing and love that we were both experiencing in this moment. I knew I was being twice blessed. The first blessing had been my own healing, and the second was this holy instant.

A client will come in for a session and may believe they are the only one who will receive a healing. Both the client and therapist may believe that the therapist is somehow the dominant party in their relationship.

Over the years, I have come to learn that a good therapist creates a space for healing to occur and maintains it during a session through non-judgment, acceptance and love. That is their job.

The client may be mirroring back to the therapist a lesson she has already learned. The present moment is affording her the opportunity to deepen and strengthen an insight she may have previously received converting that insight to knowledge.

I share with you this truth that in every situation where there is a client and therapist, both parties receive a healing during their work together. We are truly never healed alone.

And, as always, remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing

We’re Never Healed Alone

One of the first things I learned when I began my training in Breathwork was that we are never healed alone. Whenever we experience a shift in perception or consciousness that shifts our lives, the people who are closest to us will be affected also. This includes our families and close friends.

Even if you are thousands of miles away and experience some kind of personal healing, your loved ones will feel the effects. Time and space is an illusion. They may not be consciously aware of what has happened, but at some level they will know. I’ve had this happen hundreds of times for myself and my clients.

Many times I’ve been in a session with a client and I would have them visualize that person and tell them what they needed to say as though that person was right there. My client might experience a deep, profound love or forgiveness for that person. In that very moment, that person they were sending the psychic message to would call my client on phone, leaving a message that they were thinking of them and felt a strong urge to call.

There have been times when I’ve wanted to tell someone close to me something that had shifted in my life but stopped from telling them because I knew they might not be able to hear it at that point in their life. I knew that they could receive the message at an unconscious level. I would do the same thing with visualization that I’ve done with clients and send my conscious thought through what I call “The Psychic Hotline”.

I hope this message encourages others, and always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing

Would You Rather Be Right Or Happy?

I became acquainted with this question in 1988 the first time I read A Course In Miracles and have heard it many times since…”Would you rather be right or happy?” Honestly, most people would rather be right.

The ego will quite literally fight to the death to be right. Many people sacrifice their happiness in order to be right. We see this played out within personal relationships, families, business relations, countries and religions through conflict and war.

Many years ago, I had a client with whom I did my Breathwork sessions and he would do computer work for me in exchange. He would tell me how loving and caring he was with his girlfriend and always tried to support her in what she wanted in her life.

However, there were several times while I was in their home I could hear them arguing. It sounded nit-picking and hurtful to me. One of them would say something nasty and the other one would come back with an even worse retort. Round and round they would go, each of them convinced they were right and both of them obviously unhappy. It was a struggle for control and power over the other.

The relationship eventually ended, and I watched as I saw this fellow get into relationship after relationship, each one ending exactly the same way. I tried to talk to him about the pattern he had running, but he didn’t want to look at and admit his part in it. He truly believed he was the victim in each case and that he was right. Eventually, he stopped working with me, and I was never sure if he was able to heal this aspect of his ego.

At those times you feel that urge to dig in your heals over something and the anger begin to rise because you think you need to be right, take a moment to ask yourself this question. By doing so, you could turn any conflict around any save yourself years of unhappiness by being a teacher for peace. And always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing