Author Archive | Maren Nelson

How Well Do You Love Yourself?

“To love yourself, is to do kindly things for yourself,” by Gary Zucav

What does self-love mean to you?

What were you taught about being kind to yourself when you were growing up?

Were you taught that to take time for yourself every day is being selfish?

Is it really okay to find ways nurture yourself?

Is your life in balance mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally and every area of your life?

What kind of inner talk goes on in your head about yourself?

How do you allow people to treat you?

Do you allow yourself spontaneous playfulness, or any play at all?

Can you laugh at yourself?

Do you allow yourself to fully experience life? Have you ever?

Can you be compassionate and honest with yourself about your answers to these questions? If not, why?

If you feel you can’t give to yourself, there is always a good reason. The reason may not be rational. Many of our subconscious beliefs began in childhood when we’re not capable of understanding things the way adults do. If you made the feeling wrong and suppressed it, it was pushed into your subconscious. Later in life, you find it still runs your and gets in the way of what you really want.

When you learn self-kindness, your inner well never runs dry. It’s truly the gift that keeps on giving. You are more open to the love from others when you recognize it’s already inside you, and can be taken away. Through self-love, you come to trust yourself, God and process of life.

Give it a try! Do something for yourself today…and every day!

And live your passion!

Maren Nelson

5 Important Steps to Help You Let Go

You know you need to let go of some things in your life, both inside you and around you, but you don’t have a clue where to begin.

You want more harmony, peace and love, but how do you get that and where do you start?

Here are a few suggestions from Ride the Emtional Wave that can assist you in awakening from all your dreams, both good and bad, that you believed were real:

  • Simplify Your World: Clear out anything that you don’t need, both within yourself and in your life.
  • Raise Your Frequency: through emotional release work.
  • Seek Balance: in your life mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally, and in your relationships, and work.
  • Let Go with Love: You don’t need to use anger or blame to clear out people who are draining you. You can recognize and honor that they walk a path different from your own. You honor your own path and the need to let go with love.
  • Forgiveness: Seek forgiveness from those whom you have offended. Forgive those who have offended you.

Death is a part of life. All things die and are reborn again in the great river of life.

Embrace the prospect of death and allow this knowledge to give you a full appreciation of life.

See your life, and everything in it, as an adventure.

Live your passion,

Maren Nelson

Stage Five of Healing: Acceptance and Surrender

Many people fear change. They will fight to hang on to the familiar, even if it makes them miserable. We believe that if we fight change, then we will be safe.

Fear of change keeps you locked into old patterns and belief systems that may be outdated or flat-out untrue. They don’t serve you or anyone, anymore. Perhaps they never did. It’s just what you have known – up until now.

To allow change in your life, it may require a shift in the way you see yourself. However, you may have a fear that if you see yourself with new eyes, you won’t know who you are. Perhaps you have forgotten that what you are is Love, and that can never be changed in any way because it is of God.

To heal your mind, and let go of the misperceptions, emotions and behaviors you have been consciously and unconsciously developed throughout your life, can feel like a death, or a profound loss.

In fact, you do experience a kind of death; the passing of the part of yourself that saw you as less than what you truly are.

When that part of you passes away, you remember your divinity. You remember you are no greater or lesser than anyone else.


Choose Peace!


Here you are deep into the holiday season. As you come up to a new year, you reminisce as the old year passes.

Did you experience peace this past year?

Is it something you want in this coming year?


Perhaps, you believe you have to put up with less than love from the people around you. You think, “This is just how people are.” So, you go along with drama, just to keep the peace. What a contradiction!

Believe it or not, peace is a choice, so is drama.

By choosing peace, you commit yourself to not allowing anything or anyone that is unloving into your inner circle. It’s that simple!

That may sound radical, but you can experience peace today, right now.

It may mean clearing out anything or anyone who does not respect or vibrate to this higher frequency. When you choose peace, and less than loving people are around you, ask God, His angels and your Guides how to best handle the situation so that you can return to peace as quickly as possible.

Enjoy your holidays, and remember you can always choose peace.

Live your passion!

Maren Nelson

What Have You Healed?

When Brenda first came to me for Breathwork sessions, she told me she had been working on her healing now for over 40 years. She had taken tons of classes, and had gone to dozens of therapists (both traditional and nontraditional) for her healing. She had read just about every book on healing she could get her hands on. She had even been a student of A Course In Miracles since the late ‘70’s.

But, Brenda’s mind would still spin around with the same kind of negative thoughts she had before she started all of this. She was still attracting in the same kind of abusive people she did before; different face, but same behavior. She hated the feelings of self-pity she still found herself wallowing in, at times. She was deeply frustrated and tired of working on herself.  After everything she had learned, why wasn’t she happy?

Brenda already knew a lot of the information I was sharing with her in our sessions. Frustrated, she finally said to me, “I want to tell you what I know!”

I told Brenda, “I understand that you know a lot of this information already. You know many of the exercises and tools I‘m sharing with you. Instead of telling me what you know, tell me what you’ve healed.”

Brenda looked at me, stunned. “No one has ever asked me that before…”

I was shocked to hear this. “So, you’re telling me that after all these years of working with top healers and therapists from all over the world, none of them asked you what you’ve healed?”

“No,” Brenda responded as she thought back.

I, quickly, went within for guidance, and said to her, “Write a list of what you have healed, and then, share that with me.”

I could see her quickly scan through her memory banks for anything she could tell me. In the moment, however, her mind was blank. She looked at me sadly.

I told Brenda, “You’ve told me how lonely you used to feel when you were younger, and that’s gone. You haven’t felt that in years. Is that right?”

Brenda nodded, but I could still feel her hopelessness.

“You’ve healed that!” I told her. “If it’s not showing up in your life anymore, you healed it!”

I hurried on with more, “You’ve told me how you used to have problems with money. You haven’t worried about that in ages, right?”

Brenda looked up at me this time, and nodded. “Yes,” she said, her eyes brightening.

Soon, Brenda was realizing many areas she had been able to correct misperceptions of herself and her life, and had seen lasting changes. Her list got longer and longer.

I want to encourage you to make a list of any limiting beliefs, behaviors or issues you’ve been able to heal or correct in your own life. You’ll know you are done with an issue when you don’t attract those hard lessons anymore.

If you choose, you can make a list of those things you still want to correct as a guideline for yourself.

As you see the improvements unfold in your life with more love, fun and abundance, remember to live your passion!

With love and appreciation,

Maren Nelson

Trust Your Gut!

Do you use social media to have other people make decisions for you? Or do you trust your own intuition when you need it in your life?

Are you in touch with your own inner guidance system?

The old phrase “trust your gut” still holds true today. Learning to trust your intuition is a skill that can be developed with practice.

There are three rules to follow when learning to trust yourself.

  1. Listen to your body: Your gastrointestinal area has neurotransmitters that deliver impulses to your brain. Then, you experience a physiological reaction like goose bumps or a knot in your stomach. These are known as somatic markers. They appear when you are in unknown territory or face uncertainty. Your body is giving you a signal.
  2. Draw from your experience: Combine what you have learned about yourself and the world, a.k.a. your life experience, along with what your body is telling you, and you have a powerful mix. Pay attention to what you feel! Is it positive or negative?
  3. Practice, Practice, Practice: Developing and learning to trust your intuition muscle is just like strengthening a regular muscle. Tune in to your physical sensations, your emotions, and your energy many times a day to learn to trust what you already know. It takes practice!

Once you learn to trust your own inner guidance system, then, if you still feel you want outer support, go ahead and check in with a friend or two, if you choose. Learning to listen to and rely on what your body is telling you will be a habit that will, eventually, become unconscious, once you’ve incorporated it into your life.

Live your passion,

Maren Nelson


It’s okay to feel all your feelings, including sadness and grief. Allow the healing tears to flow so that you feel cleansed and regenerated. Sorrow purifies your spirit.

Open to Catharsis! The process will take as long as it takes. It’s different for everyone.

When you allow yourself to feel your grief, you will create a space inside to allow in new life.

Both of my parents passed away in 2010; my mom in the spring, and Dad in the fall. After each one passed, I allowed myself to feel my emotions deeply. I was very grateful I had the Breathwork to help me clear emotions on a regular basis. I used it then, and I use it now.

I’ve heard that if a person allows themselves to feel their grief fully at the time a loss, it takes about two or three months to complete the grieving process. After two months, I felt a dark, heavy cloud of energy lift off of me. Immediately, I knew it was the grief leaving me. It happened both times. The grief was replaced with a feeling of completion with both of them.

Although I had forgiven my parents, long ago, I still had issues that developed from early experiences while growing up. The decision to go after my healing to make the corrections I needed, was my responsibility, not my parent’s. Forgiving my parents and correcting misperceptions and beliefs that I developed early on, were two separate aspects of my healing.

Be kind and compassionate with yourself as you heal your mind and remember love. As the old stagnation clears, your inner light has room to shine through more brightly than ever.

Live your passion,


Maren Nelson

Emotional Healing, Stage Three: Bargaining

You know you are in the bargaining phase of emotional healing if you are trying to negotiate things to try to make things right. You’re making deals in an effort to avoid the inevitable.

If you are bargaining, it’s a sign of progress.

You are moving toward acceptance of yourself, of others, and of life itself. You’re doing a great job!

Attempts to bargain indicate you still believe something can or should be done to change things, so they can be the way you think they ought to be.

You may bargain with God, or your Higher Power.

You may bargain at the end of a relationship.

You may try telling your partner and yourself, “I’ll change if you give me what I want.”

Bargaining is a normal phase of your healing process. In time, you will be able to release this phase to move to sadness and then, full acceptance of yourself, of your power, and of Life Itself.

Live your passion!


Maren Nelson

Emotional Healing, Stage Two: Anger

Here are two different ways anger may be expressed:

  • You use anger to control other people by making them feel guilty. You may have been taught by others, “To get what you want, you need to manipulate other people.” You use anger to control other people.

Anger you have denied or hidden shows up as passive aggression, meaning you won’t verbally say what you want or feel. Instead, you expect others to know. When they don’t, you withdraw your love in some way. When hidden anger has you in its grip, you may agree to do something you never intend to follow through on; or you go along with it and punish the other person for “making” you do it.

  • You use anger as a motivator. You utilize the fiery energy of anger to propel you forward. You use it to make the changes you need to that, otherwise, you might not have the will or energy to accomplish.

Two quick tips to release anger in a healthy way:

  1. Yell into a pillow and pound the bed or couch.
  2. Write a letter to the person you are angry with, fully expressing your feelings, both positive and negative. NEVER SEND THIS LETTER!!!

The more you heal your anger, the more frequently peace will come, and the longer it will stay.

Handling your anger in a healthy way can transform your relationships, both personal and professional.

Live with passion!


Maren Nelson

Stage One: Denial

Denial stems from fear. It is an attempt to hold situations, other people and ourselves in the status quo. When we refuse to accept things as they truly are, it hinders us from making the changes necessary to move forward and grow. We stagnate in a swamp of helpless dissatisfaction.

Denial is like a doughnut. If you hold the doughnut close to your eye, you see through the hole, but you don’t see the doughnut. You could even tell yourself, “There is no doughnut here. I can see just fine.”

One day, someone comes up to you, perhaps a good friend, and tells you, “You have a doughnut on your eye!” You reply, “No, I don’t have a doughnut on my eye. What are you talking about?”

Over time, other people tell you that you have a doughnut on your eye, but you still can’t see it.

One day, you finally realize you do indeed have a doughnut on your eye – and how silly you look with the darned thing.

You decide to do whatever it takes to correct it and remove it. That’s your cue to break out of your outdated beliefs and perceptions – and embrace change.

Change is the only constant you can rely on. Embrace it with courage and determination; and watch as it nourishes and replenishes your mind and your life.

Live your passion!

Maren Nelson