Healing the USA: Crisis Is Our Opportunity

Do you realize that the USA, along with our entire planet, is going through a healing crisis?

Here’s the interesting thing: it’s the same kind of healing crisis I talk about in “The Five Stages of Healing.”

Let’s quickly recap the five stages of healing:

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Sadness
  5. Acceptance

Bye-Bye, Denial!

It seems the country is emerging from Stage 1 – Denial – especially concerning the rampant abuse of power that has been going on for far too long in government, academia, and other bastions of authority.

We are moving into Stage 2 of a healing crisis: Anger.

And our anger is heating up as horrifying reports continue to flood in from people who have spoken out, after suffering in silence for years. The ugly acts unveiled in these reports may feel overwhelming to some of us, and unbelievable to others.

In our fury, we look for people to blame, to punish, and to bring to justice to those who have abused their authority with impunity.

Telling the Truth Takes Courage

I know from personal experience how much courage it takes to speak out against abuse and injustice, from the stand I recently took against a company where sexual harassment was rampant.

When I told a couple of friends about the harassment, one person thought I should just ignore it. The other person said I should retaliate with the same aggressive, abusive energy that the managers of this company threw at their employees.

I told both friends, “If I react by lashing out, nothing changes, and I’ve lowered myself to their level. If I do nothing, then nothing changes.”

Shortly after, I filed a sexual harassment report with the EEOC.

Silence About Abuse Changes Nothing

I really didn’t care about financial compensation. I just wanted these guys to know their behavior was unacceptable, as well as illegal.

Also, I wanted to protect the young girls who worked there so it didn’t happen to them.

It wasn’t any fun to do this, but I don’t regret doing it. The experience of taking a stand and following through on it helped me heal some of my own abuse issues.

Since then, I’ve been learning how to more consistently, clearly, and firmly speak my truth and set my boundaries, especially around sexual harassment.

The inner strength and courage that has emerged from my experience with speaking out has made this possible, and I am grateful for it.

My goal is to keep speaking out; with less and less anger and more and more grace.

Crisis is Part of the Healing Process

As I witness the country moving through a similar process, I have a hope that a profound healing is taking place for all of us.

Yes, we are facing a crisis of major proportions.

And yet, it may yield rich opportunities for healing, here. This is how John F. Kennedy summed up his thoughts about crisis:

“The Chinese use two brush strokes to write the word ‘crisis.’ One brush stroke stands for danger; the other for opportunity. In a crisis, be aware of the danger – but recognize the opportunity.”

We must look at what is going on as a necessary part of the healing process.

As with many a healing crisis, sometimes things need to get worse before they can get better.

It Can Get Better. We Can Get Better.

I thank God that these abuses, stemming from ego and lack of love, are coming to light.

It is the only way we can heal in consciousness to make the necessary changes to move forward with love and respect for all life.

As the year ends and we look with hope to the New Year, may God and His Legions of Light bless us through the stages of anger, bargaining, sadness and acceptance yet to come.

I pray for the wisdom to follow His guidance, which is forever leading us home to acceptance, forgiveness, and love.

Hold on for the emotional ride yet to come for our country, and remember: The Holy Spirit will use every experience for healing and our journey back to Love.

May you have a wonderful holiday season filled with lots of love and laughter.

Peace in the New Year,

 

Maren Nelson