May 3, 2012

I sat near my client, encouraging her to feel the sadness she had carried since early childhood. As she did, I could feel that heavy energy lift off her chest and her heart open. Her tears of grief turned to tears of joy as she felt the love of God course through her.

I didn’t even try to hold back my own tears as I was, once again, filled with awe for the profound healing and love that we were both experiencing in this moment. I knew I was being twice blessed. The first blessing had been my own healing, and the second was this holy instant.

A client will come in for a session and may believe they are the only one who will receive a healing. Both the client and therapist may believe that the therapist is somehow the dominant party in their relationship.

Over the years, I have come to learn that a good therapist creates a space for healing to occur and maintains it during a session through non-judgment, acceptance and love. That is their job.

The client may be mirroring back to the therapist a lesson she has already learned. The present moment is affording her the opportunity to deepen and strengthen an insight she may have previously received converting that insight to knowledge.

I share with you this truth that in every situation where there is a client and therapist, both parties receive a healing during their work together. We are truly never healed alone.

And, as always, remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com

March 20, 2012

One of the first things I learned when I began my training in Breathwork was that we are never healed alone. Whenever we experience a shift in perception or consciousness that shifts our lives, the people who are closest to us will be affected also. This includes our families and close friends.

Even if you are thousands of miles away and experience some kind of personal healing, your loved ones will feel the effects. Time and space is an illusion. They may not be consciously aware of what has happened, but at some level they will know. I’ve had this happen hundreds of times for myself and my clients.

Many times I’ve been in a session with a client and I would have them visualize that person and tell them what they needed to say as though that person was right there. My client might experience a deep, profound love or forgiveness for that person. In that very moment, that person they were sending the psychic message to would call my client on phone, leaving a message that they were thinking of them and felt a strong urge to call.

There have been times when I’ve wanted to tell someone close to me something that had shifted in my life but stopped from telling them because I knew they might not be able to hear it at that point in their life. I knew that they could receive the message at an unconscious level. I would do the same thing with visualization that I’ve done with clients and send my conscious thought through what I call “The Psychic Hotline”.

I hope this message encourages others, and always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com

February 20, 2012

I became acquainted with this question in 1988 the first time I read A Course In Miracles and have heard it many times since…”Would you rather be right or happy?” Honestly, most people would rather be right.

The ego will quite literally fight to the death to be right. Many people sacrifice their happiness in order to be right. We see this played out within personal relationships, families, business relations, countries and religions through conflict and war.

Many years ago, I had a client with whom I did my Breathwork sessions and he would do computer work for me in exchange. He would tell me how loving and caring he was with his girlfriend and always tried to support her in what she wanted in her life.

However, there were several times while I was in their home I could hear them arguing. It sounded nit-picking and hurtful to me. One of them would say something nasty and the other one would come back with an even worse retort. Round and round they would go, each of them convinced they were right and both of them obviously unhappy. It was a struggle for control and power over the other.

The relationship eventually ended, and I watched as I saw this fellow get into relationship after relationship, each one ending exactly the same way. I tried to talk to him about the pattern he had running, but he didn’t want to look at and admit his part in it. He truly believed he was the victim in each case and that he was right. Eventually, he stopped working with me, and I was never sure if he was able to heal this aspect of his ego.

At those times you feel that urge to dig in your heals over something and the anger begin to rise because you think you need to be right, take a moment to ask yourself this question. By doing so, you could turn any conflict around any save yourself years of unhappiness by being a teacher for peace. And always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Life Breath Integrations
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com

January 22, 2012

To continue on with our subject, I want to share with you the story I shared with my friend and client, Cindra many years ago…

Somewhere, I heard the story of a business man and a homeless man. Every day the business man went to work and at the end of the workday, he would see this homeless man standing on the street near his office. Every day the business man would stop and give the homeless man a dollar. The homeless man was always exceedingly grateful.

One day the homeless man stopped the business man and told him how much his kindness had meant to him. He explained he had once had his own business and a family. He had not come to his circumstance through alcohol or mental problems. However, by a cruel stream of events in his life, he had lost everything.

With tears in his eyes, the homeless man said there were many days he had felt there was no reason to go on with life. This one act of kindness the business man showed him every day had kept him going.

The business man took the other man to get something to eat and while sitting with him recognized this man was honest and good. The business man offered him a job. It wouldn’t pay much in the beginning, but there was opportunity for advancement. The homeless man gratefully accepted.

What neither of these men consciously knew was that before incarnating in this lifetime, the homeless man had made an agreement with the business man that he would take on the role as the homeless person so that the business man would have the opportunity to choose to experience giving compassion to another human being. It was a lesson his soul wanted to learn.

I share this story as an example of the statement that giving and receiving are, in truth, one and the same. In giving, we also receive, and in receiving, we also give.

Open your minds to the love that is shared in both giving and receiving and your hearts to doing so without judgment of others or yourself as better or lesser than. And allow yourself to remember your passion during this New Year.

Best, Maren Nelson
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
Life Breath Integrations
310-977-0044

What a lovely post, Maren. I agree completely and have had similar experiences. I think it is especially important that you bring this up to remind us to always come from that place no matter what. We so often forget and go into reaction when someone lashes out at us and that only makes things worse…and it takes us out of Love. This lesson, one of so many I was introduced to in my work with you, has served me very well. Thanks to my guides, it is one I am still given opportunities to work on!

This brings to mind another lesson we worked on. Perhaps you could also comment on what constitutes a loving act as well. Something that I have had to learn in my life is that just because what you’re doing looks like a loving act of kindness, that doesn’t always mean it serves the highest good of the other person or yourself. Which, to me, means it is not truly loving.

As I have become more aware of this and more comfortable with my process of questioning whether my action serves the highest good, I have begun to observe around me others engaging in what I would have, in the past, believed was a loving act. Now, however, I am beginning to be able to discern when these seemingly loving acts are really done from a very self-serving place with little regard for the highest good of the receiver of the act. This discernment has served me so well. It has kept me from “taking sides.” It has given me the ability to remain neutral in a way I was never able to in the past. And I believe this helps me to stay in a loving space overall.

I remember in a session with you long ago, you told me the story of a man who chose to come back to this human experience as a homeless person. He had his reasons. Those who allowed him, on this human plane, to degenerate into homelessness were serving his highest good as part of the agreements they had made before coming into this experience.

And while I have forgotten the specifics and details of this story, I’m pretty sure the overall jist is true to what you were expressing to me. That very important concept, has served me well and I have held onto it as a very important lesson.

Not that we shouldn’t offer sincere kindness for those in need, but we should always be aware of our motivation, we should always look for what the person is willing to receive, and we should always ask that we be guided to act in the highest good for all. Thank you, Maren! My life is richer, healthier, and happier as a result of the work we did together.

Dear Cindra,

I remember our conversation years ago. It was when you went through the training program with me which is now my coaching program. Although your recollection of the story is a little vague, I really like your version a lot. It’s as pure as the one I shared with you originally.

Yes, I agree with you with what you have shared here that sometimes we believe we are giving love when what we (or others) are giving is actually self-serving. Perhaps we help someone who is struggling in their life.

We give them a hand up, but in truth, deep within our minds, maybe even at an unconscious level, we see them as beneath us. Perhaps, we see ourselves as above them because we have not made the same choices that brought them to this point. We believe we are better somehow because it appears our lives are “together” and theirs are not.

Perhaps there are those people who have done something in their lives that we believe we would never do and we judge them. We see ourselves as superior. We do not know what has brought them to this place and the balancing act being played out on so many more levels than we can understand. We do not see that our judgments are generated by the fear that we have it in us to be or do what they have. In truth, we are judging ourselves and projecting our guilt onto them. Thanks again, Cindra. I remember the original story and will share that soon.

Best, Maren Nelson
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
Life Breath Integrations
maren@marennelson.com

November 26, 2011

Something I’ve had the opportunity to learn through my work with clients in Connected Breathing and in my life is that a gift of love is never lost. This lesson hasn’t always been an easy one to fully understand.

The Breathwork I do can take people to a very deep emotional level. Most people have been taught to suppress emotions and when they begin to surface during sessions (or in their lives), some people get really scared. Many people will use anger to cover their fear.

Some of those people are so afraid, they are not willing to take responsibility for their fear, and they lash out. They will either make me or the process wrong and leave. I’ve had to learn not to take this personally no matter how adamant they are about it.

When I first started working with clients and this happened, this was difficult and disappointing for me. My intent was to create a space for healing to occur. In my heart, I was offering my love.

Over time I realized that when a person cannot receive my love because of their fear, the gift is never lost. God and our guides and Teachers will hold my offering until the person is ready to receive it whether it is ten minutes from now, ten years or ten lifetimes. I may never see the client or person I’ve been dealing with again, but somehow, somewhere my gift of love will be accepted.

Allow yourself to remember your passion during this Holiday Season.

Best, Maren Nelson
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
Life Breath Integrations
310-977-0044

October 26, 2011

I wanted to write this post in honor of my parents. My father passed away recently, and my mom made her transition back in March. It’s been an eventful year to say the least.

As children, our mother and father (or primary caretakers) were God and Goddess to us. They were the center of our universe. They were the key influence that taught us about the world through what they said and did or didn’t say or do.

Our parents indoctrinated us into their world. Their world was ours at least when we were young. We took on many of their beliefs and behaviors. Some of these were passed on consciously and some, unconsciously.

As we grew, we may have been taught or came to believe in a conditional or punishing God. Where did these beliefs come from? Were we taught this through the religion or the environment we grew up in?

If our parents loved us conditionally or punished us, we may have projected our beliefs about them onto our ideas and beliefs about God. Most people are not even aware they have done so.

I want to encourage you to examine your beliefs about God or a higher power if you have any at all. Perhaps you have chosen to believe there is no God. You may believe that if there is one, He/She is as judgmental and punishing as what you may have experienced from your parents while growing up. Perhaps you have turned your back on the God that you were raised to believe in.

You can choose to change your mind about what characteristics God has. You can choose a loving god, one that does not judge or punish. I believe that the term Love and God are synonymous. To me, Love is God. You can choose to make Him/Her your best friend. And always remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
Life Breath Integrations
310-977-0044
maren@marennelson.com
www.marennelson.com

October 1, 2011

Question: Saw your post of my question – thank you! So are you saying that I should go into a meditation with the intention of reaching and being introduced to my spiritual guide/guides? I’m sure they are there! Thanks again – hope my questions are not bothersome to you but I know that you have been attracted to help direct me and lead me in my journey. ~Scott

Answer: I love your questions and I’m honored to share with you. Yes, going into a meditation with the intent of connecting with them is really all it takes and they’re there. There will be a process in learning how to differentiate what’s coming from you and your ego and what’s really coming from your guides. Ask for signs to help you know it’s them. Ask them to help you to know they are there for you. You will get your answers if you know how to look for them and how to read the metaphors. Spirit speaks to us visually and in metaphors all the time. There may be a sign by the side of the road or a song on the radio. Someone will say just the right thing to you at the right time. It’s an amazing experience as you learn to develop a relationship with them. I feel there is a team of guides and even the Ascended Masters working with me for my highest good. It really got rid of a deep loneliness inside me when I first began to really know they are with me.

Thanks again for your inquiry. Maren

September 28, 2011

Question: Maren, how do you make initial contact with your spiritual guides? I read your blog today and am very excited by it! I meditate once a day and sometimes talk to God and He gives me advice or encouragement, but I don’t think I have come into contact with a spiritual guide in the way you mention. ~Scott

Answer: Good question, Scott. I’m pretty irreverent when I communicate with my guides. Sometimes I hear them laughing at me. They get a kick out of me, and I know they know the deep love and gratitude I have for them. I think mostly it’s your intention. They are always there for us. It’s us that need to open to them. I connect with them anywhere at any time. Sometimes I’ll sit quietly for a moment to center myself and connect. It’s pretty simple actually. In my mind, I usually start with, “Hey, you guys!” Thanks for your question.

Best, Maren

September 17, 2011

I had gone through many experiences while growing up that made me believe in spirit guides through different things I had felt, seen, and heard, and even in dreams. In 1986 I began to consciously develop a relationship with them. I believed that by doing so, they could help me with my healing and in every area of my life. I was right.

I worked every day to learn to hear and feel them. I asked them to help me with this. I asked them to help me to learn to trust them and the information I was getting.

I asked them to help me to learn to differentiate what was coming from them versus my ego. This was tricky, and I still ask for help to this day to know when it’s them. I asked for signs to show me what was coming from them and help for me to see and understand the signs. My abilities grew stronger over time, and in 1994 they jumped to a whole new level.

I was living in Malibu and was doing breathwork. I had started my practice in 1987 and over time, had developed my own way of doing it beyond what I had been taught in my Practitioner/Teacher and Master Teacher certification programs.

One of the things I do is to invite in my clients and my spirit guides, Teachers and the Ascended Masters along with four of the Archangels: Michael, Gabriel, Uriel, and Raphael into the sessions. The Ascended Masters consist of different masters who have lived on the planet such as Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, Mary, and Quan Yin to name a few.

I can always feel the guides and Masters in the room in sessions and there have been many, many times when I have seen and heard them. They love to help with healing and they are really happy when someone begins to open up to them and to consciously work with them.

I would always ask for help from them during sessions, but I wouldn’t ask very much for help for me in my life. I had this crazy belief they must be too busy to help little, old me.

I went through a period when every day I could hear them say to me, “You’re not asking enough. You’re not asking enough.” I began to make sure I asked for help once a day. Again, I heard, “You’re not asking enough. You need to ask for help with everything”. Finally, when I trained myself to ask for help and guidance from them several times a day, I stopped hearing it. (They’re really good at helping me find something when I lose it.)

To this day there are times when I forget to ask for their help and guidance, but not often. When I do, as quickly as I can remember, I ask again. I even ask them to help me remember to ask for their help, and they do. I encourage you to develop a relationship with your guides and to ask for help with everything in your life. And you can ask your guides to help you remember your passion.

Best, Maren Nelson
Minister of Mind/Body Healing
Life Breath Integrations
310-977-0044